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JOHN REEL

Executive Director, Harmonic Mediation Society

Get your conflicts resolved and improve your relationship... fast!

Hi, I’m Relationship Coach John.

I help couples, families, friends, and colleagues communicate to resolve conflict quickly, even if they have multiple issues that have been unresolvable for years.

Most clients see a dramatic change within one to three sessions and work through most of their issues within 25 hours spread out over 10 sessions or so.

I will guide you through and teach you a repeatable, incredibly effective, structured approach that allows you to really hear, understand, and empathize with each other, get to the root issues, reconcile differences, heal old pain, solve issues, and build routines to continually improve your relationship.

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CASE STUDY:

HEADED FOR “DIVORCE, DEFINITELY”

This married couple was referred to me after going to counselling where “nothing really progressed”. They were avoiding conversations “like the plague”, and thought their relationship was headed for divorce.

WHAT CHANGED:

  • We "got control of our life and relationship."
  • We got to a place where "we may not always agree on the issue, but we can understand each other's feelings, wants, needs, all of that."
  • We have "meaningful conversations with each other that make us want to talk to each other."
  • And much more in the 12 minute video.

CASE STUDY:

A LOT OF “PAIN, LONELINESS, AND DISCONNECTION”

After 21 years of marriage, the topic of splitting up came up, and it was really easy to feel resentment. They knew they couldn’t go on without getting support. Things dramatically shifted by the fourth session.

WHAT CHANGED:

  • "We've been getting along great!"
  • It "brought a different quality of intention to our relationship that we hadn't had before."
  • "We made it important to... be present, and think about each other, and appreciate each other."
  • There's a "greater sense of ease with each other, and I'm very optimistic." "We now can talk about things, that before... I was afraid of bringing up."

RELATIONSHIP MEDIATION & COACHING

NOT THERAPY…

HARMONIC MEDIATION

Harmonic Mediation is an empathic approach based in Nonviolent Communication to help people deeply understand each other through careful listening, reflecting what each other says, and uncovering the underlying feelings, needs, and requests people have of each other.

It is a highly effective structure for resolving conflict peacefully. 

BUILD EMPATHY

Build empathy and deeply understand, see, and know each other.

COMMUNICATE

Practice listening, reflecting, and truly hearing each other.

HEAL AND REPAIR

Move forward from old hurts and issues that have created divides.

MAKE AGREEMENTS

Create workable agreements that care for everyone’s needs.

Here's how we'll resolve your conflicts:

  • You'll get resources to use while you communicate to make it easier to connect and solve issues.
  • I will model how to share and listen with connecting communication as we resolve issue after issue.
  • As you get practice, you will communicate more directly to each other and I'll help as needed.
  • When there are more challenging topics, we may do prep with each of you to make connection easier.
  • As needed, we'll do various exercises to heal and reconcile differences, control triggers, etc.
  • You can practice with workbooks and kits, which you can buy or print and work with when not in sessions.

COMBINED WITH…

RELATIONSHIP COACHING

Once we’ve dealt with the conflicts holding you back, Relationship Coaching helps you create a shared vision of your best life together and supports you in finding creative ways of moving forward and achieving that vision by identifying areas for improvement, setting achievable goals, and developing a tailored action plan to enhance relationship satisfaction.

SHARED VISION

Create a vision of your best life to work toward together as a team.

SET GOALS

Create specific goals for what you want to achieve as a couple.

ACTION STEPS

Create detailed plans of who will do what and when to reach your goals.

BOND & CONNECT

Become a bonded, loving team that keeps getting better.

Here's how we'll make your relationship great:

  • We'll set goals and create action plans to create the relationship and life you want.
  • We'll create little frequent connection routines to keep your relationship forever growing stronger.
  • We'll create routines to ensure your ways of being loved are continually being met.
  • We'll discover and practice ways to quickly diffuse fights before they get going.

WORKING TOGETHER:

Making progress fast:

You get more personalized attention because I focus on just a few clients at a time. This allows me to know you better and support you more effectively. It also allows us to have longer sessions, often 1.5 to hours, sometimes 3 hours as needed, so we can get through processes and create maximum change fast. And, it allows me to have more flexibility to meet within your schedules, including having more sessions with you per week if you want to get things resolved quicker.

All meetings are on Google Meet:

I work online, so all sessions are done on video calls. You can book sessions on a schedule, have multiple sessions in a week, change the schedule as needed, or just book as needed. Whatever serves you best.

Rates:

I charge a sliding scale based upon your means, working with some clients pro-bono. We will agree to a rate in our first meeting, prior to our first session. If you’re have the means and the work we are doing is transforming your relationship, I request that you pay a rate in line with what you would pay a high-end therapist or consultant.

No financial contract:

You don’t need to commit to paying me for months. Instead, you buy hours up-front and I will support you as needed. If you find sessions valuable, you can buy more hours and book more sessions, and you can stop booking without notice. Session length varies as needed, with some processes taking longer. The hours used will be deducted from your credit. If we use up more hours than you have pre-paid, I will let you know and request the difference.

Money-back guarantee:

I only want you to give me money because you are getting the value and change you want, you want to work with me, and you want to show your appreciation. If either of us thinks it’s not quite a fit after the first session, your money is refunded.


After that session, you can pre-pay for more hours. If you need or want the money back for any reason, I’ll refund the unused portion. (So, if you pre-pay for 4 hours, use 3, and want your unused money back, I’ll refund the 1 unused hour.)