With the right support, most couples who want to, can learn to understand each other, solve their issues, talk and laugh and bond like best friends again, and create a happy, fulfilling life together.
Hi. I’m John. I want to help you get there.
Curious about working with me?
With the right support, most couples who want to, can learn to understand each other, solve their issues, talk and laugh and bond like best friends again, and create a happy, fulfilling life together.
Hi. I’m John. I want to help you get there.
Curious about working with me?
NOT THERAPY…
Couple skills
Rooted in Nonviolent Communication and Relationship Coaching, I’ll help you practice and integrate skills that repair relationships, create a sense of being a team, and lead to thriving together. I’ll also provide new tools I’m developing through a nonprofit, to help you practice and implement these skills together, outside of sessions:
Communicate
Build empathy, and deeply understand, see, and know each other.
Resolve Issues
Replace arguments with enjoyable, healing, and productive talks.
Make Agreements
Create relationship enhancing plans that meet both your needs.
Bond & Connect
Become an intimate and loving team that keeps connected.
CASE STUDY:
Headed for “divorce, definitely”
They were referred to me after going to counselling where “nothing really progressed”. They were avoiding conversations “like the plague”, and thought their relationship was headed for “divorce, definitely”.
What changed?
- We "got control of our life and relationship."
- We got to a place where "we may not always agree on the issue, but we can understand each other's feelings, wants, needs, all of that."
- We have "meaningful conversations with each other that make us want to talk to each other."
- And much more in the 12 minute video.
what about My Relationship?
My partner and I have been living together, and working from home for the last nine years and counting. We spend a lot of time together!
Like most of us, we learned to communicate in ways that can put up roadblocks to getting our needs met, and have pain and hurt in our histories that can come out in unhelpful ways when stressed or upset. We went through some tough times in our relationship.
Putting these couple skills into action got us through all that. We now solve any issue without arguments. When we slip into old patterns, we notice, do repair and bonding work, and quickly recover.
The couple skills also keep optimizing our lives and relationship. They helped us realize dreams, and from that new perspective, dream bigger. And, they keep making us more connected and happy.
It’s an exciting journey.
I look forward to helping you with yours!
working together
I work with couples where, even if you feel hopeless, you both still wish for this relationship to work and know it will take some effort. You’ve made the decision to get one-on-one help and are looking for the right person.
(If that’s not where you’re at, I have resources for you, so please still book a call. I want to help you.)
My vision for you is that you reach your goals quickly, you are functioning great, and you need less help because you are empowered to continually make your relationship better, by yourselves.
So, if you like, you can have longer sessions in the beginning (at no extra cost) to jumpstart that change, and you can eventually switch to monthly check-ins to make sure things are still on track, and get help as needed.
What do I charge?
You can pre-purchase 4 sessions at a time for $647 USD or 12 sessions for $1,797. Either way, 3 months of coaching is under $2k. You will likely experience a significant change in that time, and find this to be a very worthwhile investment in your relationship.
Is there a guarantee?
Yes. After the first two sessions, if either of us realize it’s not a match, I’ll refund your full payment and those two sessions will be free. I only want you to give me money if I’m effective in helping you.
Is there a financial contract?
No. If you find the first four sessions valuable, you can book another four, or stop booking with no notice. I will support you as needed, so you can use pre-paid sessions as needed, and/or on a regular schedule.
When and where will we meet?
I work online, so video calls. I prefer to work between 10am and 5pm Pacific on weekdays. Exceptions can be made, so we can discuss other times if needed.
What are my qualifications?
I am a certified Relationship Coach, Radical Marriage(tm) coach, and a member of the International Coaching Federation (ICF).
I’m also a candidate to be a certified Nonviolent Communication (NVC) trainer, where I am being mentored to train conflict mediators.
And, I’m the founder of a new nonprofit, with a mission of spreading these skills and training more people to support you and people like you.
More importantly, I’m fun to work with. What you’re embarking on is something that can be enjoyed and is full of celebrations as you see results!
Curious about working with me?
"I was avoiding having conversations with Karen about anything. Now I'm just not afraid to talk to Karen about things anymore. We have more meaningful conversations with each other, that make us want to talk to each other. Thank you. I really do appreciate it. I do. I really appreciate it. "
"Without you, I could have lost a long-time dear friend of mine. You're like an investigator who is really comfortable getting to the heart of the matter, and through that confidence and holding that space of possibility, it diffuses and calms the tension. We feel like we can get through this."
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