5 Things I learned from being rich and losing it all
Wednesday, August 13th, 2008I once had enough money to do whatever I wanted thanks to a successful start-up. Sadly, like most lottery winners, I was unprepared for this and mismanaged my new-found wealth.
This is what I learned from being rich for a little while:
1. I can get rich.
I think one of the biggest things holding people back from getting rich is the belief that it is possible. I did it once, getting past this roadblock by finding mentors to guide and inspire me. I will do it again soon, better, and with more ease, simply because I know I can do it.
2. Success begets dangerous opportunities.
When you do well, suddenly a lot of doors open up to you. May I humbly suggest that you ignore them unless they are directly part of your plan. Otherwise, you may find yourself distracted, spread too thin, and losing ground. Related, I suggest flushing out fully everything to do with what made you successful in the first place before moving on to something else. There probably are other ways to take what you’ve done to greater success, riding on the wave you’ve started instead of starting a new wave from scratch.
3. Money does buy you happiness.
To all the people who say otherwise, I say hogwash. There was a dramatic change in my personality when I had money. A tremendous weight was lifted when I suddenly went from a low income to (apparent) financial security. In a society ruled by money, no longer having to worry about money is something very worthwhile that money can buy. (Note: I know very happy people with no money, living off the grid. Money is not the only route to financial security!)
4. Stuff does not buy you happiness.
There is an image that our society as a whole seems to subscribe to of what it means to be rich, and a good part of that image is attached to buying stuff. With a lack of a different role model, I found myself subscribing to that belief system, even as I questioned why the heck I needed these things.
Next time I’m rich I’m not going to attempt to fill holes in my life by purchasing stuff. I’m going to use the money to do good and live a more extraordinary life, defined by what I do and experience, not what I own. Stuff just ties you down and forces you to make yet more money. You can be rich with a lot less money if you stop buying lots of stuff!
Very inspiring quick read: 10 Unexpected Costs Of Owing Things
[As an aside: It seems almost a right of passage with many Internet entrepreneurs to buy a really expensive car. Why? Why? Why? If I really wanted to spend that kind of cash on myself, I would get a full-time personal chef. Now that's a luxury!]
5. It’s important to know why you want to be rich.
Money is a means to an end, not the end in of itself. With the pace expected of Internet entrepreneurs, the means tends to become all consuming, and when the money comes, I think many people forget what the point of it all was and continue doing what they were doing, just on grander scales. That’s what I did. I squandered the freedom of being able to do whatever I want, and it took (temporarily) losing the option to allow me to discover what I really want to be doing with my life.
I’m actually glad that I have had this experience of gaining and losing wealth. It has given me more balance to my life now. It has also prepared me to gain wealth again, keep it, and live my life in a much more intentional way doing things that really make me happy.
By the way, in future posts I will write about all the things I did right and wrong in my start-up, and the lessons I learned in the process.
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